I'm Garth. At my heaviest I weighed 172 kilos. Today I'm 84, the lightest I've been in my adult life.
For a long time I believed my body was the problem. If I could just lose the weight, everything else would fall into place. So I tried the diets, the gym memberships and the fresh starts, and each one came with the same promise that this time would be different. It wasn't, because I was trying to fix the outcome without fixing what sat underneath it.
What changed was the order I did things in. Sleep, structure, honesty, support. When my life became steady enough to hold a change, the change started to hold. Weight loss surgery in 2022 was part of that. It was a tool, and I'd finally learned to respect it.
The same thing happened with dating. For years I was the easy-to-be-with nice guy who never got chosen. Working through that with my mate Tom Valcanis, a men's group and therapy, I stopped trying to be liked and started being honest. I found the love of my life, Sam.
A Remade Man is where I share what I learned, from my books Balding Overweight Sex Machine (with Tom) and The Weight I Was Carrying. You'll get one honest story and one small thing to try each week. It's not a formula, and I'm not someone who has it all figured out. It's just what worked for me, so you can decide what fits your life.
This isn't medical or psychological advice. Please work with qualified professionals on your health.